• ByteOnBikes@discuss.onlineOPEnglish
    1456·
    9 days ago

    My kid got in a fall and I had to leave work to go to Urgent Care. Three hours for a doctor to give my kid a pain med and a bandaid, and costing us $2k.

    Ive been helping my unemployed ex-teammates find work and stay motivated.

    My wife’s side of the family messed up on their paperwork and because they’re also dark skinned, I’m worried about ICE.

    I took my other kid to the park last week and was called a sexual predator by another mom. Ive been pretending to be okay as the women in my family all blame me for “looking how I look”.

    My cousins have called me twice in the past month concerned about bills, and I’m sending them food money.

    Oh and the Europeans on Lemmy is yelling at me for being an American because I’m not doing enough to stop Trump.

    • Naho_Zako@piefed.zipEnglish
      67·
      9 days ago

      I took my other kid to the park last week and was called a sexual predator by another mom. Ive been pretending to be okay as the women in my family all blame me for “looking how I look”.

      I’m very sorry for you, and fuck the women in your family for saying something like that. Someone who thinks you look like a sexual predator and says you deserve to get harassed for your looks is no family of mine. I’m a woman, but I’d slap the shit out of someone if I knew they said that to their male family member.

      • ByteOnBikes@discuss.onlineOPEnglish
        392·
        9 days ago

        I appreciate the kind words. Thank you.

        I feel like the manosphere is so loud right now that average dudes is caught in the crossfire. All I can do is politely apologize on behalf men for all the toxicity. Which again, a tiny fraction of the many things going on in the world.

        • [deleted]@piefed.worldEnglish
          21·
          9 days ago

          Acknowledge their complaints are valid, sure, but you should not apologize for the actions of others just because they share superficial similarities. Internalizing guilt for things other people do isn’t healthy.

          Keep being a decent person, that is the best you can do.

    • ElysianBladeRunner@piefed.socialEnglish
      23·
      9 days ago

      Lots on your shoulders brother. I praise you for holding it all together. You’re doing a great job despite being ask so much and disrespected. Man to man, family man to family man, this all will pass. Stay kind brother.

    • Brave Little Hitachi Wand@feddit.ukEnglish
      22·
      9 days ago

      I respect you. If not for a random parent being dual citizen somewhere else, I’d be in the exact same shoes. We got out four years ago.

      Try to ignore the people on this site who can’t distinguish between real people and real problems. The system is all about making good people less activated. Just keep doing your best.

    • toynbee@lemmy.worldEnglish
      8·
      9 days ago

      I initially thought it said “bitch out,” meaning that the censorship made me think of a “worse” word.

      edit: Also didn’t realize until now that that freaking said “freaking.” Again … Censorship made things seem more extreme.

    • Donkter@lemmy.worldEnglish
      31·
      8 days ago

      The people who know you’ll engage with the post with a comment like this.

      It’s basically free engagement from nothing.

    • skisnow@lemmy.caEnglish
      2·
      8 days ago

      I suspect there’s an algorithm out there on some other platform where boosting is adversely affected by any kind of negative language, and people have figured it out and try to game it with this kind of thing.

  • Wispy2891@lemmy.worldEnglish
    941·
    9 days ago

    What the fuck, here there are no algorithms to please, there’s no fucking need to censor “freaking” or “burn”.

    • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.worldEnglish
      20·
      9 days ago

      Meanwhile, the Reddit sub and the username in the left corner are censored so poorly, I don’t know why OP (original OP, whoever first “censored” the screenshot) even bothered at all.

    • Geth@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      13·
      9 days ago

      When users are so brainwashed they can’t even say the word dead, it probably becomes second nature to be PG rated everywhere all the time.

  • LiveLM@lemmy.zipEnglish
    611·
    9 days ago

    Have we really reached a point where censoring “Burn out” is necessary?

    • NotSteve_@piefed.caEnglish
      36·
      9 days ago

      And freaking freaking. The self censorship is at the point where even the self-censor words are being self-censored

      Edit: actually just realised it’s probably interaction bait which I fell for

      • ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        9 days ago

        As long as you don’t upvote it doesn’t matter the post won’t be bumped higher in the feed from just comments alone.

    • oni ᓚᘏᗢ@lemmy.worldEnglish
      12·
      9 days ago

      At this point I think that any censorship is a type of “engagement”.

      “if you wanna make clicks, censor some words!”

  • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.worldEnglish
    291·
    8 days ago

    Our lives wouldn’t be so complicated if we had financial freedom via a UBI and didn’t have that metaphorical gun put to our heads to make us keep working forever.

    Most animals do very little every day, humans are one of the only animals to have no resource scarcity but still work ourselves into an early grave from stress.

    • teslasaur@lemmy.worldEnglish
      63·
      7 days ago

      Uhm. Most animals live by the grace of chance and circumstance. Barely getting enough to sustain life.

      I think I understand what you’re trying to say, but you can’t seriously think that pre-industrial age people were sitting around and doing nothing? Post-industrial age came with an explosion of people to match the new amount of resources. If we don’t produce the resources then people die.

      Do you want a simpler life or an easier life? Those are two very different things.

        • teslasaur@lemmy.worldEnglish
          13·
          7 days ago

          I’m all for testing 6 hour work days.

          But the fantasy of universal income is too farfetched. Who will produce the food? Are we to collectively agree that we take turns on producing the food? I sure as hell don’t want that, and there lies the core issue. How do you force people to do things that they don’t want to do?

          Lol, these downvotes. Explain the system instead. How do you propose to force people?

          • Olhonestjim@lemmy.worldEnglish
            21·
            7 days ago

            Why the hell do you immediately think of slavery? You don’t force people to do anything. If you need work done, you pay people to do it. Obviously.

            And since workers have a guaranteed income to fall back upon, employers have no choice but to pay a fair wage. That’s the entire point.

            Seriously, if you want to understand UBI, there are whole studies available online for your reading pleasure. There are dozens of books on the subject. Your question isn’t mysterious or insurmountable, but worse, it’s not even insightful. It reveals that you’ve never given it the slightest consideration or study. Do some work. You were down voted because you’re so wildly off-base as to not even be wrong.

            Since you brought it up though, what do you think our current society intends to do with us besides slavery and genocide? And how do you propose to stop it?

            • teslasaur@lemmy.worldEnglish
              1·
              7 days ago

              Why the hell do you immediately think of slavery? You don’t force people to do anything. If you need work done, you pay people to do it. Obviously.

              So just capitalism then. But with extra steps.

              And since workers have a guaranteed income to fall back upon, employers have no choice but to pay a fair wage. That’s the entire point.

              No…? The ones that work to produce would control the supply and the prices would reflect it. Kind of like that other system that starts with c.

              Seriously, if you want to understand UBI, there are whole studies available online for your reading pleasure. There are dozens of books on the subject.

              I’ve read plenty of articles about it, not sold on it. Was curious if anyone had any way to sell it. You just present it as capitalism, which i suppose is one way to do it. Though I would argue that people would stop doing necessary jobs, since they no longer need to work.

              • Olhonestjim@lemmy.worldEnglish
                1·
                7 days ago

                Capitalism is when a small amount of people own the means of production while doing no work and profiting off the labor of many. It isn’t when people buy and sell and work for money.

                When you suggest that people must be forced to work, it demonstrates you don’t understand it at all.

                UBI simply puts power back where it belongs, in the hands of the workers.

                • teslasaur@lemmy.worldEnglish
                  1·
                  7 days ago

                  capitalism is when a small amount of people own the means of production.

                  Wrong. That would be oligarchy. But i can tell that you are confused since you present UBI as capitalism without even realizing it.

      • berrodeguarana@lemmy.eco.brEnglish
        21·
        7 days ago

        underrated comment.

        The post above yours would make more sense if we had reached a Star Trek level of future where the baseline population is educated enough to know what’s best for them and their own rights.

        Unfortunately we are so very far away from it, sigh

      • reksas@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        73·
        8 days ago

        that is at least kind of understandable. but if one thinks “Burn” is bad word, why stop there :D should censor also adult and problem, maybe also endless, never and no too since those could potentialy also have negative connotations which seems to be big no no. oh and also laundry since moneylaundring is a thing.

        • kazerniel@lemmy.worldEnglish
          5·
          8 days ago

          and “adult” clearly means porn, and “ends” clearly refers to murder or suicide 🙃

    • Ephera@lemmy.mlEnglish
      8·
      8 days ago

      To my knowledge, it’s because advertisers don’t want to be displayed next to potentially negative posts.

      That then means that commercial social media platforms would rather display posts for which they get paid. So, potentially negative posts get downranked by the content curation algorithm to the point where they will be seen by virtually no one.

      And that then means that users self-censor, and also potentially overdo it, because they don’t know for certain which words will get punished.

      This is similar to the phenomenon known as algospeak, where words such as “unalive” are used: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Algospeak

      • buddascrayon@lemmy.worldEnglish
        6·
        7 days ago

        Yet they are fine with being seen next to Nazi propaganda.

        I fucking hate goddamned social fucking media.

        Fuck advertisers.

      • reksas@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        2·
        8 days ago

        i wish reaction to that would be that users go to use some other service instead

  • bus_factor@lemmy.worldEnglish
    261·
    8 days ago

    While this is an issue everywhere, America dials it up to 11 by making you deal with all sorts of overcomplicated nonsense.

    Healthcare in the US:

    • Annual Prep: Open enrollment
      • Figure out what HMO, PPO and HDCP means, and what it means to you (which one is better depends on both your needs, your job, and also your spouse’s job, so good luck coasting on knowledge from last year)
      • Figure out what to do with HSA and/or the various FSAs, requires mapping out what you’re expecting to happen with your health, childcare and elderly care that year
    • If your chest hurts and you’re worried:
      • Go to the ER (not urgent care, they’ll forward you to the ER even if you seem fine)
      • Get lots of unnecessary care (like three EKGs, a chest X-ray and some blood work) before they conclude you’re just stressed from living in America
      • Receive five different bills several weeks later
      • Keep those in mind for another week or two until your health insurance sends their version of events
      • Receive the explanation of benefits, which does not match the bills
      • Call both the provider and your insurance a few times to figure out what’s going on, because of course you have to mediate between them (they don’t talk to each other)
      • After thinking about these bills every day for about three months, you can finally pay them and be done with it

    Healthcare in Norway:

    • Annual Prep: None
    • If your chest hurts and you’re worried:
      • Get a same-day emergency appointment at your doctor or call an ambulance, depending on how worried you are
      • They listen to you with a stethoscope and maybe do an EKG, conclude you’re fine
      • You pay your copay on the way out, and never think about it again
    • Blue_Morpho@lemmy.worldEnglish
      6·
      9 days ago

      After thinking about these bills every day for about three months, you can finally pay them and be done with it

      Oh your not done with it. In almost all cases you’ll get another bill in 6 months to a year later that’s a mistake but you have to call to correct the error.

    • Nalivai@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      9 days ago

      In Germany you wouldn’t have to pay for any of it, you go to ER or call an ambulance, they help you, you’re done.

    • sexy_peach@feddit.orgEnglish
      21·
      8 days ago

      True, also these thoughts are somewhat depressive. Many if not most people are perfectly happy with what hey have (family, home etc) and the work they have to do. This is impossible to imagine if you have depression, but it’s a reality.

    • AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.worldEnglish
      15·
      8 days ago

      Because he CHOOSES to push the boulder. That’s the important distinction. If you wait until you HAVE to do laundry it’s not really a choice and it feels like the chores are now dictating your schedule instead of the other way around.

      • bellly@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        6·
        8 days ago

        Actually, sisyphus was forced to roll the boulder by hades as punishment, bc he tried to cheat zeus. N the boulder keeps rolling down bc hades enchanted it, so sisyphus could never complete his task

        • AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.worldEnglish
          21·
          8 days ago

          Yes, I know it was his punishment. But he later comes to accept his fate and DECIDES to push the boulder up the hill everyday. It’s just a made up story anyway I’m sure people heard other versions hence the downvotes.

          • bellly@sopuli.xyzEnglish
            2·
            8 days ago

            Thats not rly deciding tho is it? Bc he was never the one to start pushing the boulder of his own volition, he was made to do it. N the fact that he may have accepted his fate eventually doesn’t change that. Also dont worry abt the downvotes :3 it happens sometimes 🫂

            • AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.worldEnglish
              2·
              7 days ago

              You can always decide, that’s the point of the story, or so I thought. That even if something is forced upon you (like laundry or having to work or eat, etc) that you can still make a choice to do that thing. It helps give you a feeling of control, even if it might seem small and unimportant it could make a big difference. Maybe I’m just projecting lol

              • bellly@sopuli.xyzEnglish
                2·
                7 days ago

                I think reframing a situation can be a healthy coping mechanism :3 but it’s also fine to acknowledge that it wasnt u who got urself into that situation to begin with. What u focus on in the end prolly comes down to whether ur a more problem or solution oriented person :D Ig im just a bit more problem oriented lol

  • X@piefed.worldEnglish
    201·
    9 days ago

    Okay, I’ll bite: what SMS is this screenshot being posted to where “freaking” and “burn” are deemed necessary to “censor”? Y’know, so I can avoid even accidentally going on it.