I had an ex who worked in this field, she went to mortuary school and worked in mortuaries, before that she worked in organ transplant. She went into the field because of a combination of personal tragedy (a close one passing away at an early age) and seeing how delicately the mortuary handled the event.
Anyhow, she and I would talk about it often. One of the things she would note on, wasn’t that it was sexual based things men would do (besides general office sexism coming from men on occasion), but more about the level of respect they showed the deceased. Crude Comments they’d make about their weight, features etc…
So I think it just depends and it would be difficult to verify these other claims because the “victims” are deceased and most things related to it seem to be anecdotal.
I’m also not going to google necro in anyway
(Also yes, she was kinda emo/metal an had some pretty sick tattoos)
seeing how delicately the mortuary handled the event
I sure wish I’d had this experience with the funeral home I picked out when my dad died. I called them to arrange to pick up his body, and the answering service was AI and obviously so. I gave them his name and the voice read it back to me to confirm it as “Robert common name R-O-B-E-R-T, Smith common name S-M-I-T-H”. Then the owner ghosted me for more than a week and only delivered the urn with the ashes in the night before the internment at 8:00, left it outside and split before I could talk to him. 8 grand well spent.
DoorDash getting in the mortuary services game huh?! Those rascally innovators, wonder what they’ll innovate next!
All jokes aside, I should add, that fucking sucks, and is real gross, and I’m sorry you had to pay through the nose for the privilege of experiencing such a tasteless money-grab. Yuck.
pay through the nose for the privilege of experiencing such a tasteless money-grab
My father wanted us to get the cheapest option when he passed and then to spend the money on a party instead.
We obliged.
Well, it turns out that once you go under a certain price, it also starts getting tasteless, even if it’s cheap.
The guy showed up. Nice black suit that is too large for him. Wondering where he got that.
After accessing the situation (a corpse on the first floor) he then asks if we could help him carry the corpse down the stairs.
So we do, and following his direction holdning my father by the arms as we try to solve the “sofa problem” with my father’s corpse in my childhood home staircase… he ask us to shift to the shoulders to avoid breaking his arms off around the corner. As we finally get my father on a rolling stretcher, he asks if we could get him dressed quickly before the stiffness sets in. As we do it, my dead father rips a nasty dead fart.
Exactly how he had always wanted it.
Personally I actually enjoyed the process of having to be the one to carry him out of the house feet first instead of having a stranger do it. But other than that, I would advise anyone to not ask for the cheapest option.
I’ve gotten to experience some bargain basement mortuary services myself - and sidenote, I swear, people say Americans have no sense of culture?! Please!
We got to enjoy a mortuarily-approved ($$$) small plastic bin for the remains in question in our case, as well as a quiet little moment of our own, ours being more Lebowski than Tucker and Dale lol.
We weren’t asked to help carry, at least. Yeesh homie.
True. Humans only become valuable once they are dead.
They only say you were a good person once you are dead, say you were too young, they go “if only we knew, they seemed fine” if you kill yourself, then go to imvestigate, once you are already dead.
How many writers were ridiculed and rejected, before becoming famous AFTER their death?
Once you are more like an object, once you have no more feelings, is when they start actually valuing you for what you were.
Same as how people will value their cars, or precious things more than people.
Same as how people romanticise native americans, years after they were almost exterminated completelly (while mostly treating those still alive like shit).
Shitty pay, crappy hours, being surrounded by the dead all the time… You either gotta love the job or end up loving the dead…
Some jobs need to be done, but who’s to do them? Can one be completely sane and handle this kind of life without issue for years on end?
Most of the people employed tell themselves it’s just a job and spend their time dodging the reality of handling the dead all the time, but a few… well… they go all in.
Normal is a state of mind that has us come to grips with that which is beyond our control.
My wife was in the funeral industry for a while and studying mortuary sciences. She says she left because it was too depressing being pressured to upsell grieving families all the time.
There is a lesson here. Have these conversations today with your loved ones about final arrangements. I promise you that many of them would rather be buried in a casket from Costco and have the money spent on literally anything else.
This is especially true if they’re going to be cremated.
Can’t argue that, but I still don’t want to live in a robot. I don’t want to die at the moment but I don’t think I want to live… However long a robot does.
Let it be known, if it is too costly to shape my ashes into a spear and shoot it into the heart of the sun, or to build a statue of me Conan-posing on a throne of skulls surrounded by scantily-clad babes, just put me in a coffee can with some fireworks and light the fuse
I just meant in modern times is it a wide spread problem that morticians are fucking the dead. You think that shit would hit the news if it was is all.
I’m guessing it’s hard to come by reliable stats. It’s on the same level as priests abusing children, the cover-up would be extensive. But, it’s even harder, because the corpse can’t testify in court, or make a YouTube video.
I mean, honest question that I really do not want to google. Is this actually a wide spread problem?
Ok that ones on me, I should’ve caught that
That’s what the corpse said!
I had an ex who worked in this field, she went to mortuary school and worked in mortuaries, before that she worked in organ transplant. She went into the field because of a combination of personal tragedy (a close one passing away at an early age) and seeing how delicately the mortuary handled the event.
Anyhow, she and I would talk about it often. One of the things she would note on, wasn’t that it was sexual based things men would do (besides general office sexism coming from men on occasion), but more about the level of respect they showed the deceased. Crude Comments they’d make about their weight, features etc…
So I think it just depends and it would be difficult to verify these other claims because the “victims” are deceased and most things related to it seem to be anecdotal.
I’m also not going to google necro in anyway
(Also yes, she was kinda emo/metal an had some pretty sick tattoos)
I sure wish I’d had this experience with the funeral home I picked out when my dad died. I called them to arrange to pick up his body, and the answering service was AI and obviously so. I gave them his name and the voice read it back to me to confirm it as “Robert common name R-O-B-E-R-T, Smith common name S-M-I-T-H”. Then the owner ghosted me for more than a week and only delivered the urn with the ashes in the night before the internment at 8:00, left it outside and split before I could talk to him. 8 grand well spent.
DoorDash getting in the mortuary services game huh?! Those rascally innovators, wonder what they’ll innovate next!
All jokes aside, I should add, that fucking sucks, and is real gross, and I’m sorry you had to pay through the nose for the privilege of experiencing such a tasteless money-grab. Yuck.
My father wanted us to get the cheapest option when he passed and then to spend the money on a party instead. We obliged.
Well, it turns out that once you go under a certain price, it also starts getting tasteless, even if it’s cheap.
The guy showed up. Nice black suit that is too large for him. Wondering where he got that. After accessing the situation (a corpse on the first floor) he then asks if we could help him carry the corpse down the stairs.
So we do, and following his direction holdning my father by the arms as we try to solve the “sofa problem” with my father’s corpse in my childhood home staircase… he ask us to shift to the shoulders to avoid breaking his arms off around the corner. As we finally get my father on a rolling stretcher, he asks if we could get him dressed quickly before the stiffness sets in. As we do it, my dead father rips a nasty dead fart.
Exactly how he had always wanted it.
Personally I actually enjoyed the process of having to be the one to carry him out of the house feet first instead of having a stranger do it. But other than that, I would advise anyone to not ask for the cheapest option.
Holy fuck, what a ride.
Left me deceased as well.
I’ve gotten to experience some bargain basement mortuary services myself - and sidenote, I swear, people say Americans have no sense of culture?! Please!
We got to enjoy a mortuarily-approved ($$$) small plastic bin for the remains in question in our case, as well as a quiet little moment of our own, ours being more Lebowski than Tucker and Dale lol.
We weren’t asked to help carry, at least. Yeesh homie.
True. Humans only become valuable once they are dead.
They only say you were a good person once you are dead, say you were too young, they go “if only we knew, they seemed fine” if you kill yourself, then go to imvestigate, once you are already dead.
How many writers were ridiculed and rejected, before becoming famous AFTER their death?
Once you are more like an object, once you have no more feelings, is when they start actually valuing you for what you were.
Same as how people will value their cars, or precious things more than people.
Same as how people romanticise native americans, years after they were almost exterminated completelly (while mostly treating those still alive like shit).
Shitty pay, crappy hours, being surrounded by the dead all the time… You either gotta love the job or end up loving the dead…
Some jobs need to be done, but who’s to do them? Can one be completely sane and handle this kind of life without issue for years on end? Most of the people employed tell themselves it’s just a job and spend their time dodging the reality of handling the dead all the time, but a few… well… they go all in.
Normal is a state of mind that has us come to grips with that which is beyond our control.
My wife was in the funeral industry for a while and studying mortuary sciences. She says she left because it was too depressing being pressured to upsell grieving families all the time.
There is a lesson here. Have these conversations today with your loved ones about final arrangements. I promise you that many of them would rather be buried in a casket from Costco and have the money spent on literally anything else.
This is especially true if they’re going to be cremated.
All of my loved ones want to have their organs donated to science, then have the leftovers cremated.
Put my brain in whatever robot you will use to serve as a hard drive.
What could go wrong?
You might live forever.
Nothing is forever, friend.
Can’t argue that, but I still don’t want to live in a robot. I don’t want to die at the moment but I don’t think I want to live… However long a robot does.
Let it be known, if it is too costly to shape my ashes into a spear and shoot it into the heart of the sun, or to build a statue of me Conan-posing on a throne of skulls surrounded by scantily-clad babes, just put me in a coffee can with some fireworks and light the fuse
Herodotus mentions it in The Histories written around 430 BCE.
I just meant in modern times is it a wide spread problem that morticians are fucking the dead. You think that shit would hit the news if it was is all.
I’m guessing it’s hard to come by reliable stats. It’s on the same level as priests abusing children, the cover-up would be extensive. But, it’s even harder, because the corpse can’t testify in court, or make a YouTube video.
I fucking hate humans.
It’s likely far less common than that comment is leading you to believe.
You know that Dr. Who meme? The one where the blonde woman asks “Is it a lot?”
Just think of it that way.
Clara is a brunette, I just want to clarify that in case people get confused about which meme. :) (It took me a sec)
It’s not even true, classic internet misinformation. I’m shocked Lemmy isn’t calling it out, it’s slowly becoming reddit
just your run of the mill misandry.
personally I’m all for it. I’m an equal opportunist and believe that all sexes and orientations are pieces of shit.
people are fucking disgusting.