• 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
      18·
      21 hours ago

      good, you’ll gain so many xp and skills from your other quests, that when you’re ready, the dating quests will be easier

            • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
              3·
              13 hours ago

              fFUUUUUUUUU i wrote a long response but accidentally deleted it. fuck

              I was extremely depressed not long ago. and extremely lonely, feeling unworthy of affection or human relationships. barely felt human.

              It began with no kings, I met a group protesting Palestine (had no idea they existed, and a topic in very interested). from there I joined their weekly protests. from those I was introduced to DSA, and I began working on their mutual aids. before I realized I was getting invited to other activities/action groups…

              now?

              From those groups I have made very deep friendships which I treasure deeply. Have grown as a person, I feel human. I see them so often, barely passes a couple days without hanging out with someone. Have managed dating, partly because how much more interesting and rich my life is right now, but cut it off due to cPTSD giving me nightmarish flashbacks from a traumatic abusive relationship I had in the past. but I still get intimacy frequently, like amazing intimacy with amazing people regularly. my depression is non existent. and it became a positive feedback loop, and in ever step, i gradually discovered who the fuck I was, the person lost in years of depression. I’m a fruity silly goof who wants to make the world a better place.

              I’m not saying any of this to brag. and it is my upmost intention not to make you feel worse. I want you to believe that I was there, 100% was there, in the deepest depression, over a decade without experiencing any positive emotion, 5 suicide attempts, countless failed antidepressant treatments.

              all I’m saying, find a group that does something you care about, and show up. consistency is key. it was so awkward at the beginning. but it got so easy so quickly.

              if your situation is so dire I believe you can get out.

  • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world
    684·
    1 day ago

    You cannot love another if you don’t love yourself. The best is finding someone who wants to grow beyond their past hurts. Become better people. Together.

    Good luck all.

    Oops we are in shitposts not couple memes. I mean…

    The main quest is marriage. The side quest is eating strangers asses. Ive always gotten distracted dungeon crawling. 🫠

    • Track_Shovel@slrpnk.netEnglish
      7·
      24 hours ago

      Lmao @ dungeon crawling

      You are right, though. It’s not fair to any partner if you expect them to fulfill the hole in your emotional wellness. All you are doing is setting yourself up to be emotionally fragile and codependent on them.

      If you’re like me, you won’t listen to the information above, but I promise you that I learned this the hard way.

  • retsnom513@kbin.earth
    18·
    22 hours ago

    Currently in the middle of a divorce and realizing this is this same exact thing. Finding a partner doesn’t improve your self worth, or value. It should compliment it.

    Whenever I start dating again I feel the stakes will be so much lower to find someone than when I found my soon to be ex. It might actually be a nice experience than a stressful one.

  • dangling_cat@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    131·
    21 hours ago

    Life when you fully understand gender and sexual orientation is a completely made up concept. You just need to be the true self and embrace that life is short and be confident to express your feelings.

    • YeahIgotskills2@lemmy.world
      2·
      16 hours ago

      Out of curiosity, if it’s all completely made up, how would you explain the fact that people across different cultures and time periods consistently report similar patterns in sexual orientation? That suggests there’s something deeper going on than just social invention.

      That said, I completely agree with you on being authentic — I just think the “completely made up” part might be a stretch

      • dansemacabreingalone@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        2·
        14 hours ago

        Its a construct made up based on the needs and perceotions of primitive peoples. Id explain it the same way id explain patterns/similarities/trends in mythology and language across cultures that had no contact. That doesnt make it ‘real’ any more than ‘mama’ is the true word for ‘mother’

        • YeahIgotskills2@lemmy.world
          1·
          6 hours ago

          Sorry, not really following your mama analogy. It sounds like that’s just a variant of mother, which is, of course, has a very real meaning.

          I think it’s more like colour: the boundaries (like where blue becomes green) are kind of made up, but the spectrum itself is real. Same idea here—the labels can vary, but the underlying experience isn’t just invented.

          • dansemacabreingalone@lemmy.dbzer0.com
            1·
            4 hours ago

            It comes up a lot in a lot of languages because its a very easy combination of phonemes for a human tomake even without much motor control. Parents like to think baby is talking about them.

            So even in completely unrelated languages words for some stuff are cognates at a statistically unlikely rate.

  • lime!@feddit.nu
    12·
    1 day ago

    wait did you get banned or something? isn’t this like the fourth account?