• zloubida@sh.itjust.works
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    The expression “cheetahs run fast” is true, even if a slow cheetah, for example a wounded cheetah, is still a cheetah. Thus, the expression “men are trash” is true, even if a non-trashy man is still a man. The insistence on saying “not all men” every time someone says “men are trash” is just a new demonstration of the problem.

    (I’m a cis man myself, BTW.)

    Edit: this article explains it better than I could.

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          Yikes that’s sad. Another generation of men hating femcels shooting themselves in the foot because of inherited prejudice. There’s a big difference between calling out bad actors within your group (which I do with fellow guys regularly) and being misandrist. Seems like you got henpecked pretty hard

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            I’m no misandrist. I’m just capable of reading statistics. Our world is not safe for women, and if you deny that, you’re a part of the problem.

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              Plenty of racists claim not to be racist. This doesn’t make their racist opinions suddenly not racist. Nice try tho

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                And plenty of people are accused wrongly of things, this doesn’t make the wrong accusations true. Nice try tho.

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        Maybe. But an analogy can be rightly used or wrongly used. Racism use this analogy to speak about genetics, biology, to spead hatred; feminism use this analogy to make changes in men and manhood, and spread respect. The difference is essential.

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            It’s the old paradox of tolerance, but applied to respect. Respecting oppressors wont bring respect. And we men oppress women as a “demographic”, even if we don’t individually want to. I know I individually don’t want to, but I know my privileges, and if a woman passes me alone on a poorly lit street, I know she is not in danger, but she cannot know that and will have good reason to be afraid.

            I don’t want for women to be afraid anymore, I don’t want men to be called trash anymore, but the solution is to stop, as a “demographic” and not as individuals, to be dangerous for women. And the first step is to recognize the problem!

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                And who largely occupies positions of power, whether political, economic, cultural or social? Men. And women who proved that they can be man-like. Society is trash because men are trash.

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                    I just want things to change. The situation is dire for women, we men must acknowledge that if we want equality. This thread and the reactions here are a confirmation that I’m right.

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              There is somw biology involved regarding hormones etc., but yes that is a good point to make that distinction.

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      What percentage of a group needs to be considered trash in order for the whole group to be called trash?

      Every group has trash people. Is every group trash? Are all women trash too?

      If I met a woman who was trash, and then went online and said “women are trash”, would that be acceptable?

      What if I happen to live in a place where I’m surrounded by trash women unproportionally, would it be okay for me to declare all women as trash, because that’s all I have ever met?

      Where do you draw the line? How do you measure when enough people in the group become trash, so that it’s okay to call the whole group trash?