This is what I’m talking about. You don’t go there hiking with flip-flops or sneakers. Or in shorts. Or without emergency bivouac. Or without checking the weather report first. A clear blue sky can turn pitch black in less than twenty minutes with huge temperature drops. People are so out of touch with nature nowadays, they completely underestimate how rough conditions can get. And they’re too lazy to do a just little bit of research.

Isn’t the Grand Canyon also overrun with tourists and influencers?

We didn’t have much better haircuts back then either. But we had more diversity. This is also one of those things I miss, the countless subcultures which led to interesting social dynamics. When was the last time you saw punks and hip hop enjoyers partying together in a park?

I’m not trying to take space away from young people by any means. I actually tried the opposite. It didn’t work and I moved on.

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Computers and music instruments are ridiculously cheap compared to the eighties and nineties. I had to build stuff with broken parts I found in trash (like everybody else who wasn’t rich so the majority of users) and still managed to make much better music with all that Frankenstein equipment than the average young AI slop “artist” of today. And you’re also proving my point regarding philosophy and psychology or anything else that needs more than a few seconds to process. Fits perfectly with studies about declining attention spans.

That makes people fun?

Yes, talking to people about something deeper than “lol, look at this meme” is fun.

I think you should take a look at yourself before you call a generation that is experiencing the highest cost of living in modern history, boring.

WTF does one have to do with the other…? Are you suggesting that people have zero interests outside of social media because of high cost of living?

You do realise that libraries are free? That getting a used guitar will cost you all of $50? That getting a pencil and a notebook to start drawing will be, what, $5? Oh yeah, you can even get a pencil for free at an Ikea.

Be seen but not heard, got it.

I rather throw those lemons back & watch you make lemonade.

And me saying that to black people when they get mad I said they’re one of the good ones isn’t racist? 'Cause…

The comic may be and so may the comment I was replying to. The question, however, isn’t: people may have more on their minds than the pursuit of women, eg, the state of humanity.

Moreover, the comic is about multiple things. The man sees an invitation to meet women. The woman sees a warning.

It makes as much sense to ask about this discrepancy, messages, norms.

It’s so irritating. What right do humans have to keep existing? After murdering most of the world and creating a hellscape.

If one is sufficiently motivated, one takes one’s chances.

No, not generally, no.

It means your immediate and extended family, people you live with, people you’ve known and interacted regularly with for 2+ years… people who you have had a consistent relationship with for some time.

And also these aren’t like… ‘polls’, in the derogatory sense of a dubious or poor quality one.

They’re crime stats, and academic reviews of them.

The public image of rape is of the proverbial stranger attacking a woman in an alleyway. While such rapes do occur, most rapes actually happen between people who know each other. A wide body of research finds that 60–80 percent of all rapes and sexual assaults are committed by someone the woman knows, including husbands, ex-husbands, boyfriends, and ex-boyfriends, and only 20–35 percent by strangers (Barkan, 2012). A woman is thus two to four times more likely to be raped by someone she knows than by a stranger.

https://courses.lumenlearning.com/suny-hccc-socialproblems/chapter/4-4-violence-against-women-rape-and-sexual-assault/

(This is a bit old, but the citation for Barkan 2012 is a literal Criminology textbook, used to teach Criminology… it keeps getting updated and revised, but I am not able to find the entire text of the most up to date version available freely.)

A first date is a stranger, I guess possibly unless this is a first physical date after a prolonged long-distance relationship.

A boyfriend, husband, or ex… is not a stranger, in the sense of a person you have no substantial relational history with.

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Also, if we are talking about domestic abuse, violence committed by people in a substantial relationship, toward their partner:

IPV is common. It affects millions of people in the United States each year. Data from CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS) indicate:

About 41% of women and 26% of men experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime and reported a related impact.

Over 61 million women and 53 million men have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

https://www.cdc.gov/intimate-partner-violence/about/index.html

(You may note this page was last updated before DOGE did its DEI purge of online US gov data, looks to me like this survived it unaltered, I’ve been using this page as a citation every so often for years when discussions like this pop up.)

So yeah, this is obviously a big problem for women… but more than half as many men have been victims of that first, very serious category of IPV as women, and something like 7/8ths as many men have been psychologically abused as women, by a partner.

When you take into account that genrerally heteronormative machismo dissuades men from reporting psych abuse, and that… many places in the US still don’t consider a woman forcing a man to have sex with them against their will… to even be rape / SA …

…yeah, I mean, the proverbial ‘win’ probably still goes to men for being just overall more likely to do IPV, but the margins of that ‘win’ are way more narrow than most people seem to think.

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Another factor that is very prevalent to IPV that is rarely emphasized by society:

A whole lot of relationships involving IPV have two guilty parties, both are abusive (like, legally, often criminally), the entire relationship, both parties to it, are toxic.

Wouldn’t that depend on the quality and source of the poll? Like in academia when there’s a publication with a poll (generally called a survey) - they usually publish a methodology section which states how things are being defined/asked.

Methodologies between surveys aren’t universal, so I don’t think it makes sense to speak of “all polls”.

Well yeah, but presumably if you have a partner already, you aren’t going on too many dates with strangers.

There’s some guy out there with a religion that says you are basically the devil, and there is nothing you can do about it.

I think it was fairly clear from what I said about “horror stories” that I didn’t mean harmless and fun weird people.

Makes sense, but there has to be a better way as that sounds awful, like it does not sound like your alcoholic brother is genuinely building trust with you that way.

Not going fast enough though so war is still necessary.

You must have your own purpose, completelly independent of others