There is a guy at work 2 heads taller and more muscular than me I find very strange: he seems to enjoy to either ask or tell me what he thinks about me without any filters: He either asks intrusively if everything is OK, staring at me like it’s an interrogation or blurts out loud what he thinks about my face (you look angry). It’s always when I’m preparing to do my job (checking the computer, taking notes) or when I’m working (looking for files). I’m starting to feel intimidated. I don’t talk to him but he talks to me, I don’t want to talk to him to listen what he thinks about me. Can’t he see I’m working? Doesn’t he have things to do? Or anything better than blurt out what he thinks about me?
I’m also a man, but smaller than him and I keep my opinions to myself.
Is this mobbing? Would contacting HR be of any good? Any ideas to deal with this kind of person?
This has happened twice already in 3 weeks, so you decide if this is a pattern.
Send an email to your supervisor so it is in writing. Any time this person does it, send an update email. If that goes nowhere, email HR. Make sure you indicate the exact date/time/location, exactly what was said, why it makes you uncomfortable, and who else could have witnessed it. Paper trail with all of this information is extremely important.
This is some of the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard. This person posts something with barely any detail about a human interaction and your immediate thought is to literally log every interaction and report it.
I apologize for making you extremely upset, I did not realize my suggestion would make someone this incredibly angry. I based my suggestion on an experience I had in the past which started out in a seemingly harmless way but escalated over time to harassment. I had a difficult time showing how it started. I am glad, however, that you have probably not had to experience this.
why does it have to be a power struggle? good advice for winning a power struggle. but why does it have to be?
Not sure what you mean. Nothing I said is intended to be part of a power struggle. Perhaps you replied to the wrong person, or misinterpreted my suggestion.