• jtrek@startrek.website
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    9 hours ago

    Similar in that they can both be, your words, “intense, intimiate and potentially painful and overwhelming.”.

    I’m going to argue that the “normal” point of view that holds losing your virginity as a big fucking deal (pun intended) is in fact unhealthy. It’s often bundled up with patriarchy. It really doesn’t need to have all the brouhaha. That creates a lot of misery and hangups.

    You’re not proving that it should be a special case. You’re just acting like it’s self evident.

    Incidentally,

    You need it to be with someone who cares about you so they can make it a good experience

    Also applies to karaoke.

    So I don’t believe you when you say

    It’s not some victorian-purity BS,

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      9 hours ago

      Yeah, go tell sone of your female friends in real life that karaoke is comparable to their first time.

      I’m sure you will, because they’re totally comparable and you’re not a troll, right?

      I’ll wait for your screenshot showing how they reacted.

      No further replies until then.

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        9 hours ago

        You’re doing a bad job of arguing. You made a claim. I offered a trivial counter. You’re not updating your claim. You’re just saying “nuh-uh”.

        You could try arguing that the degree is different, but as someone said that’s not true for everyone. Some people are really casual about sex! From the start! And some people would never, ever, do karaoke.

        Even if you were factually correct (you are not) your argument is structurally unsound.

        I’ll see what my friends say in the morning