I understand she wants freedom in a house she lives in.

But if you go to visit your parents it is not of her concern. She can not get both.

She might be worried about some fantasy she has, but it might not be too bad in the end.

I am in this situation. My parther is close (physically and emotionally) to her family and I wouldn’t want them visiting. But I am happy for her (without me) to go.

Problem arises when she wants me to go too and that’s where fight starts. Either eight away or after visit, wether I go or not.

No advice, just my experience.