I had an argument earlier with my son (it was about raking leaves, so nothing genuinely bad), and a few minutes ago my son blew up at his brother and got upset all over again when I confronted him. So we went to his room to talk, and I asked him what was upsetting him so much. He told me he thought I hated him because I was yelling at him earlier.

Long story short, I told him I wasn’t yelling at him per se; I had to yell because I wanted to be heard over the loud leaf blower. Also, I made sure to reinforce with him that there is nothing he could say, do, or become that would ever make me hate him.

So, while I get how it can be confusing to know that your dad is homophobic, I can also understand why he said what he said; because Im a dad, and (homophobia aside) I feel the exact same way. I put my kids far above my own beliefs, because I fucking love them.

If/when you ever decide to have children, I have no doubt that it’ll make perfect sense to you too. It’s a parent thing. 😊

~Also, kudos to your dad for taking this approach and not copping out and disowning you. That’s huge.~

Thank you for confirming what I said. 😊

This may or may not help, but here’s my two cents:

Windows was originally built to be as user-friendly as possible because its target audience are non-tech-savvy people. It then evolved into being a business OS. So security was never its first priority.

UNIX was built for tech savvy people to do business-sensitive stuff, and required sophisticated security models. Linux was modeled after UNIX (Minix specifically), and thus inherited those same principles. It evolved to become more user friendly. But security remained a priority.

Now, that said, both Windows and Linux are configurable. You can make Windows more secure with effort, just like you can make Linux less secure with effort (and I don’t mean simply using root all the time).

There are diehards on both sides , and they will make excellent (or terrible) arguments for their favored OS. So you need to decide what works best for you and your use case and go with that. 😊

Ths might be an over generalization, but it’s my layman’s understanding that all Native American and Latino people migrated over from Europe-Asia; some went south and colonized Mexico and Central America, while others went to Canada and also the US. So if that’s true, then I would imagine they’d have some shared lineage.

I still sometimes face the shelves because I’ve been there and I want to show solidarity.

I put my ticket numbers in my tickets, but i also try to describe the change too (e.g. “Fix bug where xyz happens due to zyx action”). Also, atomic commits: commit only related changes.

Yes, it takes longer to commit large changes, BUT you can easily merge the commits, and rollback only what needs to be rolled back.

Ain’t nothing wrong with that! Id probably buy new windows and do some other house work. It’s an investment.

You can certainly pay for the work ahead of time. The rules say that you have to spend it in one day, not receive what you bought in one day.

Hey they tried! 😂

Git commits with message saying “pushing changes” and there are over 50 files with unrelated code in it.

Tell that to my girlfriend… oh wait. 😢 😂

Counseling is the way to go. It’s going to take a lot of time, a lot of opening up, and being honest with your counselor and yourself. Don’t expect to see results immediately. You will get frustrated with the process. But you have to keep going.

Also, don’t be afraid to find a new counselor if your current one isn’t working for you. And only you will know what that means. But when you find the right one, it will make a huge difference for you.

At the same time, you may need to give your therapist multiple chances. What I mean by that is that you will not always see eye to eye with them. And that’s okay; especially if they’re challenging you to move past something big. But if you constantly feel something is off, then trust your gut. This is about what’s best for you.

I genuinely wish you the very best of luck.

Look, you need to find some way to get some you time. Start small. Only you can figure out what that means. But you’re absolutely right that it’s unrelenting, and it won’t stop. Talk to someone (a friend or a therapist). Don’t let it stay bottled up.

Good luck!

Mine is like you, but much more general: trying to argue. Period. Doesn’t matter with whom. People of all kinds don’t like to have their views challenged.

I gave my oldest son (12-yo) this talk the other day. Hopefully he took it to heart.

Nah. Fuck OED. They’re not the only game in town.

There are over 8 billion people in this world. No one said it was limited to just your lifetime. 😏

There is a movie called Good Will Hunting, where the janitor (Matt Daemon) is a math prodigy and befriends a professor therapist (Robin Williams).

This comic is a role reversal of that movie.

Edit: thank you to @[email protected] for the correction, and the gentle reminder that I need to rewatch this movie. 😁

Leprechaums

Aren’t those the cheap Temu versions of Leprechauns? I heard they arrive broken; if they arrive at all.

The ONE time I hoped the Internet didn’t lie to me. 😢