Conclusion: kids are the cause of 60% of divorces.

They might not be the original cause but often they are part of the process. Some people seem to think that a child will fix their already strained relationship. The problem is that while children make it harder to split up, they usually don’t fix the underlying reason why the relationship didn’t work in the first place. In the end, they get a divorce anyway only now there is a small human who has to suffer from it.

Congratulations to the few where a child did fix a relationship but for everyone else, maybe sort out your problems before you add another innocent bystander into the mix.

Please note rule 5: this is not a support community.

Germany.

If I had to leave (not that unrealistic, considering predictions for the next federal election), it would probably be New Zealand. Seems to be one of the few English-speaking countries that hasn’t gone crazy yet and cold enough that I might survive climate change for a few years longer than here.

Probably not an outcome I would want for the world but out of scientific curiosity I would be interested in what happens if Ögedei Khan dies of old age instead of drinking himself to death in December 1241, just before his army has the chance to completely steamroll Europe. That might be one of the most extreme butterfly effects in history.

Hmm… let me test something. Does this show up green? If yes, I can select “Speak as moderator” even in communities that are not mine.

Weird. You also show up green in Voyager on iOS but only for that one comment. Even on your reply, you are unmarked and in the web interface, I don’t see any marking at all there is a small red shield icon without alt text.

They are probably a mod. Most clients show mods in green and admins in red.

The font was named after the country. It was designed in 1957 in Münchenstein near Basel, Switzerland.

Many years ago I read the D book and really liked many aspects of the language. What kept me from using it was the ecosystem. They had three compilers and two different standard libraries, none of which were fully compatible with each other which led to a whole bunch of weird problems. These days it’s probably better. Maybe I should give it another chance.

You asked about lemmy.world specifically. They are on lemmy but not on lemmy.world. People from different instances talking to each other is the whole point of lemmy (and the fediverse as a whole).

Which boils down to „running an instance is hard and thankless work“ and with more users and more legal restrictions it will only get worse.

Based on my income after taxes and mandatory insurances (health, retirement and so on):

• 25% rent (including water)
• 15% utilities (electricity, heating, internet, phone plan)
• 10-15% food (including comfort food like sweets)
• 5-10% insurance and stuff for my unemployed partner
• on average 5% other necessities (public transport, clothing, …)

Pretty much the same here. I have an old AX41-NVMe for applications (including mail server, mastodon and lemmy) and an even older one from the server auction for files (running Nextcloud with their storage boxes as the backend seems pretty fiddly). Both have increased around 3% so I’m fine.

They did send out emails with the new pricing a couple of months ago and I saw that some newer servers and especially cloud stuff get massively expensive, though.

They boiled before a bath because they wanted hot water, not because it was dirty. Central water heaters in lower and middle class homes are a relatively recent luxury.

Which is good. I’m just annoyed by the constant “What can we do to get all those people over here” threads that have been popping up the last few weeks because I don’t think that should even be our goal in the first place, no matter how unrealistic it is.

Apparently people who hope that social media bans will drive a significant amount of people to the fediverse. This is how this whole thread started. To which I replied that I don’t want the fediverse to grow too rapidly. I would be very happy with slow but steady growth.

There is a middle ground between pulling up the ladder and trying to get everyone in the world on board.

Everyone who is genuinely interested is more than welcome but the fediverse is currently not equipped to handle hundreds of thousands or even millions of new users. Let the general public find their own niche and concentrate on the ones who find us on their own or through friends.

And you overestimate the amount of bullshit the average instance admin is willing to put up with. Sure there will be a few instances who can afford lawyers, offshore servers, whatever. But the majority are hobbyists who think this whole fediverse thing is neat as long as it costs a few bucks for an off the shelf web host and a bit of free time to moderate. And if those people get legal threats, they will either comply or get out because running an instance with 100 users is just not worth the risk of ruining your life.

The fediverse wouldn’t die completely but it would for sure lose many smaller instances. We’ve already lost larger ones like lemm.ee for less.

It might be hard to enforce for every instance but even if only 1% of instance admins get strongly worded letters threatening fines if they don’t follow the law, I guarantee you that many more will just decide that it’s not worth the risk, they close their instances and we end up with even fewer users than before.

Between server costs, moderation effort, discussions whether certain instances should be defederated, and existing legal requirements (like removal requests for copyrighted or illegal material), hosting an instance is already a thankless job and most admins do it for free. The last thing we need is uncontrolled growth that attracts lawmakers’ attention as well as users that don’t share our values and require even more moderation.

Let the fediverse grow naturally. We don’t need to shut anyone out but we shouldn’t actively advertise to the whole world either. Recruit your friends who might be interested in the content and culture we already have. Let the rest of the world find their own thing. That way, we can maybe stay under the radar for a couple more years before the problems start.

I actually hope the fediverse doesn’t grow too rapidly. Otherwise we will also be forced to implement age verification.