

You tell her that you want to see her, but without the kids
It sounds like you don’t want to see her in the first place, and if you don’t have a close enough relationship to be able to say that you don’t want the kids there, then I’d be asking why you would have coffee with them at all
It’s tricky, and I wish you good luck!
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It’s an old habit anyway, but I work a dirty job. My boots stay at the door
When the climate allows, I’m usually naked at home anyway