Pop_os was plug and play for me :D

So is the answer to give up or keep trying?

:/

Mutual Aid and building community is the best outcome for the future we are facing.

Even if everything he says is true he needs to learn to treat people better and not at the expense of your time and feelings. Leave him behind, work on yourself however feels right to you and you will very likely barely remember his name a decade from now. Don’t EVER settle for that sort of treatment.