Beth

If this is how my children felt, I would consider myself a failure. It’s not acceptable in a healthy relationship that the other party feel fear. For children, parents have even more of an obligation of trust and security. Anything less is neglectful and perhaps even abusive.

I see you’ve got the standard warthogs handling experience.

Johnny booth

I’ve seen just a handful of “I know it’s a comment chain from Reddit, but….” posts.

1. Buy the house for my kids I’ve been saving for
2. Set us all a reasonable allowance and a rainy day fund so we never have to worry
3. Find a way to donate the majority to underserved families of children with disabilities

Mom here.

Plan B: Yes …and…!

Go to the health dept/gyno and get tested. If you haven’t had an HPV vaccine you’ve also been exposed (and exposing others). HPV can cause cancer, which develops slowly with no symptoms. Make sure you get routine paps. Get on birth control, ASAP.

And yes I’d say you have things to process, being as you’re doing this knowing it will feel bad and scary later. Therapy is expensive and all, but I’d look into why you might do things to yourself that are clearly self-sabotaging.

Feel free to send a DM.

Realized I’d dropped a cup and band size and that’s why my bras all felt terrible. New bras yay! My wallet cries, but it feels nice?

Watching people make connections.

It’s already been working like garbage lately. Wonder if this is related.

I like talking to real people. To me that’s a benefit.

Reddit also feels like it’s gotten less friendly to me as a woman. That’s just been my personal feeling.

Here’s what I do: I work in a field where it’s never ending. Yesterday four people were looking for me while I had a priority. I focused on my priority and I directed them to remote ways to contact me. I put them on my calendar. I have 3 spreadsheets regarding different things to do this month, week, daily. I do my daily priorities and chip away at the spreadsheets in downtime. I never finish. I also don’t think about it for a single second after I leave the building, and I also don’t feel bad. The reason for this is being a human being, only one person, and it can wait but enjoyment and rest will not. YOLO.

I really don’t. I feel like what I consume and enjoy is a reflection of me.

“Roflmao” :(

Also: cool beans

I think your brain would have to rewire and maybe some heavy therapy but idk.

Just being comfortable and peaceful when nothing is evidently wrong. People taking things for granted bothers me because I can’t. Permanent fight or flight.

I’ve had a couple interactions that left me feeling pretty meh. Idk.

5. Needs are met.

I’d worry that people who shouldn’t see those confessions would be able to access them.

I recommend continuing to learn skills, trying new things, volunteering, etc. Parents seem supportive so that’s great. Just be able to support yourself independently because nothing is guaranteed. Especially how people will treat you as you get older.

Since I left Reddit, ive seen tons of diverse opinions. I’ve seen debate. I can’t understand why this wouldn’t be the case unless you’re looking to see thoughts right of center, in which case, I’m perfectly happy to never see that type of thought. It’s pervasive everywhere else.