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  • As I already said in my other response, it’s really about the developing child. Jonathan Haidt’s books “The Coddling of the American Mind” and “The Anxious Generation” both talk about the idea of over protectionism. You cannot deny that buy expensive shoes they will inevitably grow out of to avoid some light teasing from the school boys is over protecting them. They should be tough enough to handle comments about the fact they don’t have expensive shoes. If they aren’t, that’s a great parenting moment to help them work through those feelings and how to better handle the social situations.


  • The goal of childhood is to prepare you for adulthood. It is better to be teased as a developing child, especially for something trivial, and be a well rounded adult. Children have to figure out how to navigate difficult social situations themselves, rather than simply avoiding them. It is becoming increasingly problematic when kids aren’t working things out amongst themselves, or at the very least putting up with it, and instead resort to having an adult fix it for them. If they learn they can always go to an adult to fix their problems, they are being prepared for an authoritarian government. The solution to their problems is a higher power that will fix things for them. This is not quite the same, but it is avoiding difficult confrontation over something as trivial as shoes.

    I do think kids should also have the freedom to choose their own shoes. If you give them a budget, and they can find Nike shoes in that budget, good on them. Maybe they even keep an eye on them going on sale. But if they cannot find shoes within the budget, they will have to settle for what they like within their price range. Which is also a valuable lesson for a developing teen.

    they feel those problems with the same intensity we do

    We cannot protect kids from big feelings. It is vital they experience big feelings. It’s becoming increasingly problematic with over protectionism and treating children as fragile beings. It’s caused higher levels of anxiety and reduced social skills. While you may say them not having name brand shoes will lead to anxiety, if they are always given a way out of their easy to handle middle school problems, how are they going to be prepared for adulthood problems, or the countless other things out of their control. They need to experience the anxiety and learn how to handle it in healthy ways.

    something that’s important to a child should also be important to their parents, in my opinion

    I get where you’re coming from, but that cannot be universally true (and I think you would agree). A child wanting every toy they ever see, no matter how important to them, obviously is not going to be important to you as a parent. If a teen thinks it’s important everyone they meet loves them, you cannot encourage extreme people pleasing. No kid “needs” name brand shoes. That is very distinctly a want. Perhaps they do some extra chores to earn their more expensive shoes, so you are all happy. But simply giving them expensive shoes they will inevitably grow out of because of a few comments from some school bullies is not a big problem. It is a little problem. Kids can handle little problems without adult intervention.












  • The reality for most people is they charge their phone at night, and that’s it. If the phone has a built in mechanism to stop charging at a certain percentage, you can use that, but otherwise it will just charge to 100%.

    The only other option would be to have a smart outlet, and have your phone turn off the smart outlet when it hits 80%, which is an annoyance even if you know how to do it, and virtually impossible for tech illiterate people.

    The next best thing is to make sure you aren’t using a fast charger, as the heat from fast charging is arguably worse than charging it to 100%. And if it’s charging over night, there is no reason for it to charge quickly.


  • Bazoogle@lemmy.worldtoPrivacy@lemmy.mlThe Privacy Iceberg
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    Bitwarden had some security issues historically.

    What security issues? If you mean potential security vulnerabilities researcher found that they’ve patched, I don’t understand how that would be different from Keepass and their previous security vulnerabilities. Bitwarden has never had a security issues historically that I know of. Lastpass, on the other hand…

    I generally recommend using software for password managers that isn’t internet connected.

    I also recommend they upload it to whatever cloud storage they use

    I also really don’t get these two. They seem to contradict each other.

    I usually recommend bitwarden, where they can use the browser extension and mobile phone app. It gives them autofill features on all their sites. Getting someone to change their passwords and use a password manager is already difficult enough. Giving them the most convenient option is going to make it more like they stick with it.


  • Being social is pretty similar to exercising. When you first try to do it after a while, it’s usually painful and not enjoyable. It isn’t until practicing and keeping at it that it will get easier and you can actually feel the benefits. Finding someone that you can actually share your hobbies with can go a long way, especially if they are able to give some sort of input as well that is beneficial to what you’re working on.



  • Yea, telegram being advertised as a privacy messenger is a joke. If people want to have group chats like in discord and don’t care about privacy, whatever. But to try and flaunt how privacy focused you are while using your own home-brewed encryption is a joke. Not to mention the fact you have to turn it on for every chat you want end to end encrypted.

    The whole thing about not giving out data is really only accomplished by spreading user data across several countries. So you would have to get a search warrant from every country to get the data, relying on some countries not wanting to cooperate with other countries. That is not real security. Real security would be encrypting it so you literally couldn’t give them the data, even if they had a search warrant. Ya know, like signal.


    1. A password managed is basically like a physical vault. If someone gets into a physical vault, they’ve gained access to all your valuable items, but the vault is extremely difficult to get into.
    2. Random websites do not prioritize security like they should. So when there is inevitably a breach in one of those 50 sites and you end up on haveibeenpwned.com, that does not allow them access to the other 49 sites. Often when logins are breached, the people getting that information do not care about the actual site that was breached. Rather, they know a password you use and your email, and can now try to login to actually useful sites where people often use the same login.
    3. There should be multiple layers of security to your password manager. Password and Authenticator app should be basic (No SMS or Email 2FA, not secure enough). Ideally, we move towards passwordless logins altogether so there is no secret that can be compromised on the server side.


  • Using hot water beforehand was what caused my irritation. I had a dermatologist recommend using a tri-head electric razor before showering with a dry face. I bought one for $50 a few years back and it’s been a night and day difference for me. I used to get pretty bad skin irritation, despite doing all the suggested things. It’s not as close of a shave, but my skin is a lot healthier. I’ve seen some people say they’ve benefited from only using cold water when shaving, but dry shaving has been the best route for me.