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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • My apologies as I really didn’t answer your question.

    I suppose it’d be hard, because everyone is unique and different, as is their relationship with their parents, their histories and so on… If my question was to be “Why did you decide to marry each other? What made that person the right person for you?” for example, that question might not really be something you’d consider asking your own parents. Maybe they weren’t married, or even together? Maybe it’s a culture where arranged marriage occurs…

    I suppose the best thing I could think of that I should ask my parents is about me, my upbringing and their ideas of what and who I would be, and what they did to try to shape me into who I am. Thats a very specific thing that only my parents could really answer, and it’d probably help me better understand myself and may help me be a better parent too…

    I hope thats been more helpful :)




  • I have no personal experience with the app at all, so what I am about to say comes from things I heard, or inferences I’ve made about the app - but…

    I see the merit of an app like this for keeping people safe, but have no idea how it could be used without any possibility of it being abused.

    On the face of it all, basically, if a man is abusive or in any way dangerous, or raises “red flags” for women, this app can help other women be aware. Lots of narcissistic assholes come across as lovely people at the start, but by the end are abusive people. My wifes ex husband, is one example, of a psychopathic narcissist. If only we could utilise an app like this to let other women know just who he is, and what to watch out for…

    On the other side of it, of course, it’s all too easy to say someone is abusive or dangerous to defame or isolate that person. Women have the ability to be just as abusive as men. An abusive woman may use this app to make other women in their community scared of/avoidant of a man who isn’t in any way a danger to anyone.

    Basically, my understanding of the app is that it allows women to give information about men they know and have dated, so other women can get a sort of background check on said men

    But this, of course, could easily be misused and abused.

    The app also required photo ID to prove you were a woman using the app, which recently was breached and ALL of the ID that was submitted is now viewable by anyone. So… yeah