What I mean is, how do you deal with the logical conclusion that no one can ever truly be relied on and that you can always find yourself alone with no support?

Or do you disagree with this conclusion and think that some people can be relied on and that you can know that you won’t end up alone?

And if you are alone, how do you deal with the inherent human yearn for others when you know that you can never truly rely on them?

Edit: To clarify, I am talking about personal relationships and not about professional or paid help.

  • Passerby6497@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 days ago

    Try to let your “self” “die” when you can. I have trouble being around my “self” at times, and I’ve found the best way to deal with that is to let the part of you see as that “self” fall away from your mind and just exist. That little “death” can help you to be more in the moment and less in your own head dealing with whatever ruminations are rattling around in there today.

    I definitely want to try psychedelics at some point to truly experience ego death/ego loss, but my methods work well enough for me.

    • njordomir@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      I like the way you phrased that. I had a similar experience making peace with my mortality when I left religion. The self I “am” is just an illusion. It’s the link in a metaphorical chain that’s being forged. There were a lot of links before me and there will be many after me and every new link is shaped by the experience and skills the blacksmith developed from the previous links. I am not the link, but rather, I am the chain. Every action I take was made possible by the past and will echo into the future through the people I impact, the physical artifacts I create, and those will someday leave behind. One day the chain will have many links. Looking back from the newly forged links my link will become distant and less detailed, and yet, I am still the chain. Even if I am no longer known by name and everyone I ever knew has been dead for centuries, my actions will continue to echo until the end of time itself. That’s the only way I was able to make sense of it without resorting to woowoo metaphysics, deities, and such. It’s also why I feel it’s so important to be nice to people.

      Now I’m wrestling with the nature of consciousness.

      I hope you have a great day!