Ok, so I keep getting gaslighted by people around me (USA) when I comment how crazy the weather is, and how we’ve never had it like this, and they say things like “oh, you just notice it more now because you’re older” or “the weathers always done this”
But I don’t think it’s normal for weather to be -10 degrees F with snow, and then 3 days later 75 degrees F! That seems insane to me!
Unless I’m wrong and we really have had this insane type of weather “forever”. But it doesn’t feel like it.
the Question: Am I crazy, or right, and is there proof?
You aren’t crazy, the weather is fucked. The proof is in min and max temps over the course of decades. You can also pull up precipitation/snow records over decades as well. A quick google search would find you tons of proof.
People who are climate change deniers, or just willfully ignorant, will deny there is a problem, and keep denying it until their home or workplace gets swallowed up in a climate calamity. Of those, there will be a percentage that doubles down on their bullshit even after being personally bitch slapped by the weather and becoming a statistic.
Stop engaging these people; it’s exhausting. I’m dating someone like this. We will discuss an issue, have a difference in ideology, then I will find and present data and proof that back up the things I am claiming, and my fiance will just double down on the bullshit to the point that it’s transcended to gaslighting.
|Stop engaging these people
You’re literally engaged to one? How??
I stuck my strap on in crazy. She hid how dumb she was until she made fun of me for reading and researching things. When I explained why knowing about shit was important she shared her uninformed opinions. Then I spent time trying to educate… That’s when I realized she has no interest in doing better. I’m prepping for the break up. I am grey rocking hard.
Grey rocking to end a relationship? Why not just end it? That sounds like you’re taking a huge risk and potentially wasting a lot of both of your time. You’d probably be better off just packing up and leaving in the middle of the night and maybe leaving a note. Rip that shit off like a bandaid, assuming you have made your choice. Life is far too short for shenanigans, trust me.
Also, she’s currently living at my place, where I pay all the bills. I’m in the middle of trying to make the case for couples therapy.
I’ve also encouraged her to go to therapy for herself and she has so many excuses for why she can’t.
“It’s too expensive.” I’ve personally shown her how to use her own insurance, and find in-network providers to minimize cost. I also pay all bills, (rent, utilities, food.) She pays her own car note, her own car insurance, and $250 lot rent for a modular home she co-owns with her mother. Rent at the place we live is $1304. We make the same hourly wage; I spend more $ towards our expenses. She can afford her copayments.
“I don’t have enough time.” Her schedule is 7 days on, 7 days off. She has time.
I’m still in that head space where I am trying to get us help and work things out. If she isn’t prepared to listen to my feelings and keeps trying to gaslight me, ripping the band-aid off will be the sad conclusion.
So it sounds like you haven’t entirely decided to do it, but have a plan of action, with some contingencies. Being the one in power/higher responsibility role is often worse/harder, because you have the guilt threatening you in return. “Do I cut off this poor, helpless puppy?”
Have you thought about or sought therapy? I’m unfamiliar with a lot of Canada’s stuffs, but even an hour a week session with a good or even just decent therapist can help keep your head on straight, especially when you’re in an abusive relationship.
I urge you to try to make a character judgement though. Or even just a character test. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Companionship is REALLY nice, but so is being able to sleep completely spread eagle, or without without somebody snoring in your ear… Or not have your main partner in crime be willfully ignorant and abusive to you. I’m sorrynotsorry, but that’s horseshit.
Not grey rocking the relationship. I grey rock her attempts to gaslight me. I should have explained better. The first time she gaslit me, it ended with me losing my cool and screaming, and accusing her of gaslighting me. That’s what a gaslighter wants; they want to make you look crazy and for you to doubt reality around you. Once she starts to gaslight, I disengage. It’s like trying to play chess with a pigeon, they just knock the pieces around, shit on the board, and claim to have won.
Gotcha, sorry to hear that, hopefully it all goes as well as it can and you can escape the crazy.
There were covid deniers who, while diagnosed and hospitalized with covid, literally used their last breaths to deny covid’s existence.
Yup. This guy gets it.