I think that if you ask people that went through that kind of abuse as kids, you’ll realise that they never heal from it. When you know those people, you see that they either would have preferred to die, or made it happen.
Child abuse is horrible and generally not something that can be heal. That kind of abuse is even worse.
I mean that’s a pretty big claim in my mind. I’ve gotten over some pretty traumatic stuff myself. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I can honestly tell you I will claim I’m 100% at peace with my life now that I did all that work, and I honestly feel nothing but love for even my parents who were responsible for the horrific trauma.
So when you say that, my brain goes, ehhhhh I’m pretty sure all psychological damage can be undone with the correct psychological processes. It’s just a question of finding the right answer. Am I saying it’s likely or common? Absolutely not. But it’s possible. Now we just argue about what sliding scale we want to consider as statistically meaningful and a means of testing for that.
Even if it is theoretically possible to overcome it, I don’t think that it can be assumed that it’s the case for most people, and/or that they wouldn’t have preferred death.
Not minimising what you went through, but the specific kind of abuse I was targeting messes up a gigantic amount of things in the brain. You end up being fucked up on so many points that more often than not, it’s not possible to recover from.
I’ve known people struggle for years and years before just dying, and others struggle for decades with problems seeming to get worse rather than better.
Nowadays people try to make it look like it’s just one trauma amongst others, but for a lot (most?) of the victims, it’s a source of endless suffering and often makes their lives much worse than if they died instead.
And you’re not rambling, we’re just having a conversation, no worries. This is the internet, if I don’t want to read no one forces me to
I was not making a joke so you were on point.
I think that if you ask people that went through that kind of abuse as kids, you’ll realise that they never heal from it. When you know those people, you see that they either would have preferred to die, or made it happen.
Child abuse is horrible and generally not something that can be heal. That kind of abuse is even worse.
I mean that’s a pretty big claim in my mind. I’ve gotten over some pretty traumatic stuff myself. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I can honestly tell you I will claim I’m 100% at peace with my life now that I did all that work, and I honestly feel nothing but love for even my parents who were responsible for the horrific trauma.
So when you say that, my brain goes, ehhhhh I’m pretty sure all psychological damage can be undone with the correct psychological processes. It’s just a question of finding the right answer. Am I saying it’s likely or common? Absolutely not. But it’s possible. Now we just argue about what sliding scale we want to consider as statistically meaningful and a means of testing for that.
Sorry for rambling!
Even if it is theoretically possible to overcome it, I don’t think that it can be assumed that it’s the case for most people, and/or that they wouldn’t have preferred death.
Not minimising what you went through, but the specific kind of abuse I was targeting messes up a gigantic amount of things in the brain. You end up being fucked up on so many points that more often than not, it’s not possible to recover from.
I’ve known people struggle for years and years before just dying, and others struggle for decades with problems seeming to get worse rather than better.
Nowadays people try to make it look like it’s just one trauma amongst others, but for a lot (most?) of the victims, it’s a source of endless suffering and often makes their lives much worse than if they died instead.
And you’re not rambling, we’re just having a conversation, no worries. This is the internet, if I don’t want to read no one forces me to
♥️ I tend to be very very cautious when speaking now, autism has gotten me a lifetime of misunderstanding.