Might help also to describe what you think feminism is, since it’s one of those terms that is overloaded.
I once had a physical therapist tell me she wasn’t a feminist because she thought women couldn’t be as physically capable as men when serving as soldiers, and seemed to believe feminism requires treating women exactly like men.
I told her I was a feminist because I believe in equal rights for men and women, an idea she did not seem so opposed to.
Same reason cedeing Black Lives Matter to All Lives Matter is harmful.
How? If things are getting better, why to make it an issue and disturb social interactions?
Not sure I understand what you’re trying to say.