It’s actually like the title asks; What does everyone here do when you can’t sleep and are wide awake besides being on phone?

So let’s say it’s in the middle of the night and you are unable to sleep. You have to keep things soundless due to family or partner.

Trying to get the phone usage significantly lower when being in bed but it feels like nothing can replace the ‘easiness of mindlessly scrolling’.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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    I read a book. It’s quiet, it’s restful, it often helps me get back to sleep but even if it doesn’t it’s still relaxing and worthwhile.

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    I mean, I know it’s entirely opposite to the accepted advice…but when I can’t sleep, I actually find it helpful to go on my phone.

    Scrolling social media doesn’t help though. What helps is putting on long form videos on YouTube that aren’t overly engaging. It helps if you’ve seen them before too. If my thoughts are racing, having something else to focus on (but not too focused) helps a ton.

    Sitting in the dark without a mild stimulus doesn’t help, despite what the common advice given seems to be.

    I know you said you can’t have sound, but what about headphones?

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    Dreaming awake. Idk how to call it otherwise.

    I invent to myself the most ridiculous stories of things of my imagination and i play them in my head, like a sort of head game.

    When i do a sufficiently long story, i often fall asleep on it and i continue it the next evening, and it can last months. Plus you get better at mental visualisation the more you do it. I remember dreams almost every night since i did that for a long time.

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    I explicitly command my brain to stop thinking. When something pops up again I would go “nope, you ain’t doing that”.

    I would visualize something being cleaned up, like a whiteboard being erased, or turning screens off.

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      I do that too, like wiping my whole whiteboard/brain completely clean. It takes a few tries often.

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    I very rarely have trouble sleeping, but when I do, this is what I’ve always done since childhood and it hasn’t failed me yet.

    I lay there, with my eyes closed, resist any temptation to look at my phone or do anything else, make myself as comfortable as possible wrapped up in blankets and pillows and whatever

    And I just kind of direct my mind towards something pointless and let it wander down that rabbit hole

    Maybe I’ll imagine sort of a bunch of swirling lights and colors and just kind of watch them, look for patterns, etc.

    Or I’ll make up stories. I’m no author, but I’ll imagine myself as maybe a super hero, or an astronaut, or a wizard, or any of those sort of stock characters, and I imagine myself saving the world, or fighting a dragon, or boldly going where no man has gone before. These stories I’m making up aren’t deep, they’re a crappy universe full of plot holes and the kinds of characters an elementary schooler playing make-believe would come up with, because of course the superhero I’m imagining myself as can fly and has heat vision and wolverine claws and can turn invisible and has super strength and…

    Or I just kind of think about simple things I enjoy. Places I could go hiking with my dog, date nights with my wife, meals I’d like to cook for friends, etc.

    Whatever it is, I just kind of let my mind wander down that road, it takes my mind off of whatever was keeping me awake, and after I while my focus begins to falter and I just sort of slip into sleep from there.

    I’m pretty sure this kind of falls under the category of some kind of meditation. My work once did a mandatory “wellness retreat” as a “training” thing I had to go to. One of the things we did was a guided meditation session, and that felt like the same sort of thing (but for people who are boring and lack the imagination to think of a scenario to meditate on by themselves, imagining myself flying an x-wing through an asteroid field beats the pants off of imagining I’m walking through a meadow to the beach or whatever that lady was having us imagine)

    Sometimes a little background noise is helpful. I’m not personally too picky about what it is, I like trip hop music for this purpose, or forest sounds, or just random YouTube videos (not even necessarily anything relaxing, I’ve fallen asleep to some machinist YouTubers plenty of times and the sound of a mill, lathe, band saw, grinder, etc. isn’t exactly what I’d call soothing.

    And when all else fails, I rub one out

  • Erika3sis [she/her, xe/xem]@hexbear.net
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    Supposedly the best thing to do is to lay perfectly motionless in bed despite being wide awake, because that’s still a form of rest and “better than nothing”. This isn’t always what I do myself, though: sometimes I will take an extra melatonin tablet or use the bathroom, and I always wear my trusty eye mask in any case; but if you absolutely have to fidget with something in bed, I think the most recommendable thing is physical paper books. Either books for reading, including comic books; or a notebook into which you can jot down ideas, journal, doodle, whatever it may be.

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    Melatonin and a 3mg THC gummy or two.

    If it’s real bad, I’ll resolve to go clean up the garage. All of a sudden my body becomes too heavy to stand up and I’m immobile.

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    I leave my phone further away.
    Close enough that I’ll hear it if there’s an actual emergency, but far enough that I won’t reach for it just because I’m bored.

    That’s enough to take care of most of my mindless night scrolling.

    If I just can’t fall asleep, sometimes I’ll go drift off in the hammock outside or something that’ll cool my body a bit.
    Tbh, sometimes I just rub one out ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
    Also works as a decongestant.
    I’m not a doctor, don’t use this as medical advice.

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    I live walking distance to the best queer bar in the south, you can find me there many nights after midnight. Plenty of clubs, dancing, house music. I just be roaming the night looking for pretty lights and thumping music. Perks of living in a major city

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    I personally like writing + D&D, so I’ll just do that in my head. Grab some character I like, throw them in some random moments, and then just kinda daydream about the little movie I’m making for myself. It helps a ton if I can keep focused

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    Read with a real book if possible . If you sleep by yourself you can be quiet with just a small light. Either I get lost in the story then can sleep or it gets so boring sleep seems better then forcing myself to read another word.