I swear, when someone’s talking to me now, I can barely understand what’s happening. I know I’m no spring chicken anymore but I wish I was 16 again lol when I experience things it’s like it’s a memory or like I’m at the back of my head. It’s hard to explain. Every thing here is getting gradually worse over the years. Suffice to say, I’m not looking forward to my 40’s…

That being said I feel like I’m making a big deal out of something most women my age just get on with and put up with for the rest of their lives without complaining

  • lonefighter@sh.itjust.works
    15·
    16 days ago

    I’m a woman in my mid 30s. I work 48 hours a week, attend school in person, train jiu jitsu, and deal with all the normal life shit that comes with living alone and having to keep my home clean and my cats and I alive and fed. I also do all that while suffering from migraines and having ADHD.

    Am I tired? Fucking yes. Am I managing? Also yes.

    My life is so much better in my 30s than in my 20s. If any young woman is out there reading this, your 30s is not the threshold to decrepit haghood, it is fine.

    Also, I don’t drink energy drinks, or consume large amounts of caffeine. I also don’t drink alcohol. I just eat moderately healthy, stay away from most fast food, and try to exercise every day, even if it’s just going for a 30 minute walk because I’m too tired or too busy to do anything else.

    • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
      8·
      16 days ago

      Same! One cup of coffee in the morning is more a routine than a need, and I barely touch alcohol unless it’s a special occasion. I cook 99% of my own food from fresh ingredients and go for daily walks.

      My thirties are awesome, I spent most of my twenties with undiagnosed crippling pain and ADHD. Now I’m on the right meds and feel great.

      • lonefighter@sh.itjust.works
        4·
        16 days ago

        My 20s were spent in a horrible relationship that was like a frog in boiling water. I didn’t realize how terrible I was being treated until I got out of it and I’m still dealing with the fallout and the trauma, but I’m fucking free! And in the midst of all that I had undiagnosed endometriosis that the doctors kept dismissing and I also had undiagnosed ADHD.

        In my 30s I got out of that relationship, got diagnosed with ADHD, and found a doctor who took my endo symptoms seriously and did surgery (all the best things in the world to her, she saved my sanity and my life).

        My 30s are not easy, but my 20s were a cage and my 30s is doing what I want and feeling healthier doing it!

        • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
          2·
          16 days ago

          Man, I feel the same way. I didn’t self advocate and didn’t have the self respect to find good partners through my 20’s. Now I’m loud as fuck and healthier for it.

          I’m glad you’re doing better. Sometimes we gotta shovel shit before we reap the fruit.

    • Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world
      2·
      16 days ago

      Lady in her early thirties with a major heart condition, here. I work 40 hours a week, walk a few miles a day, and hike on the weekends or go to concerts.

      Life is what you make it, and I’m tired but I wanna have fun