We just met, so I don’t know him that well, but he was honest from the beginning. He says he’s still married because of their son, and because his wife doesn’t want to get divorced right now. Apparently, South Korea has a fault-based divorce system. TIL.
Unless the wife has confirmed it, I’d assume he’s cheating… it’s just such a classic cheater-story.
Yeah, separated but not divorced is a VERY classic excuse. I hope Violet takes this into consideration. If he’s being truthful, then it shouldn’t be a problem to ask for some proof that the wife is aware/ok with it. Would suck to be the “other woman.”
The reason it’s a classic is because there are a lot of people who are actually in such a situation.
No, it’s classic because a lot of people who are definitely cheating use it. The stories always end with the husband keeping the wife and probably looking for a new mistress, or the mistress continuing the affair even though she knows he’s never breaking it off.
(And it is a class cheating husband story; cheating wife stories seem to give the woman a bit of a pass, which is problematic)
Yes, why do you think a lot of cheaters use it? Because there are a lot of people who are in that actual situation, so it’s a believable story.
This seems easy to prove with some text message history.
Like literally showing / checking in the moment.