Bonifratz

When you go to the mall, what exactly causes the anxiety/feeling weird?

Thanks a lot for the offer. This might become a project of mine in the future but not before the end of this year. I might get back to you then. :)

Do you already have a server deployed? How familiar are you with Linux?

No server. I just installed Linux a few months ago as dual boot after being a lifelong Windows user (since 3.1 lol). Currently using both OS but will move fully to Linux once I have some projects finished. Self-hosting might become a future project after that and if yes, I’ll come back to this community and this thread!

What’s stopping people you know from taking this step?

I’m a noob when it comes to IT. (Even though in my family I’m the one people ask when they have computer issues lol.) I would really like to get into self-hosting and all that, and I think if I found some good guides I would probably be able to make things work, but it still sounds very daunting to me. Like, I imagine days if not weeks of sifting through online resources to fix a thousand little errors and issues that would come up. (Maybe I’m mistaken, maybe it’s all really easy even for noobs. Just trying to explain my feelings on the matter.)

Edit: Woke up to 10 replies lol. Thanks for everybody’s input and helpful links. I think this might become a future project for me, but not before winter 26/27 (for life reasons).

That’s more for semi-vegetarianism though. If OP is going semi-vegan, I’d wager a guess they’ve been vegetarian already. Maybe this calls for a new word like flexanism lol.

Lichess because I use it a lot and it’s my favourite website.

I think 3 comes closest, but I’m less curled up and generally sleep on my right side.

that will literally destroy you

Can you elaborate on this?

I know Mamdani has yet to actually show his true colours and capabilities once in office, but so far I’m hugely impressed with him. He manages to win over people with his charm and smart rhetoric (e. g. Fox’s Martha MacCallum in that interview, now Trump) while - importantly - staying consistent on message. Many politicians in a similar situation would’ve toned it down, but in the Oval Office Mamdani 1) repeated his main talking points (affordability, rent, buses, groceries…), 2) called himself a democratic socialist, 3) called the situation in Gaza a genocide, 4) did not deny Trump being a fascist (although Trump helped him on that one).
Being secure and steadfast on your own convictions actually gives you the liberty to work across the aisle without having to fear losing yourself or your constituents.

Hasan made a good point today that supports what you said: On a normal day, Trump is surrounded by people like JD Vance, Lindsey Graham, Pete Hegseth etc. - slimy spineless weirdos. Even to an asshole like Trump, it’s probably a breath of fresh air to have to deal with a completely normal, cool guy for a change.

I’m kind of amazed that they weren’t leaked a long time ago already. But I guess potential whistleblowers are aware it could literally be their death if they got found out.

Totoro for me

What are your plans and expectations? How long do you want to stay? Do you want it to be a long-term relationship? Do you want to get married to her, have kids? If not, do you want to visit regularly? Are you willing/not willing to substantially support her/the family? etc.
As this is an unusual situation (which isn’t a value judgment), I think it’s important to really think these things through, and then communicate them openly. But also understand that many cultures (including Cambodian, I think) tend to prefer subtle hints over direct communication, so in order to really understand her expectations, it might be helpful to get opinions by some Cambodian third party (I’m sure there’s some English-language Cambodian forum you can turn to for that).